Hi Miranda. Thank you for your reflections. Yes, I agree, it is sometimes hard to help others. I find the key is to do something without the person feeling you are helping. The best kind of kindness is often that which goes unnoticed. And it is as you say easier to just do something than to ask if someone needs a little help. Your friend’s response is interesting, and no doubt carries some of the pain she is still carrying and her need to feel met there. Often it is enough for people to know that someone is looking out for them and thinking of them kindly. especially someone who has not had much kindness or love shown to them for a while. It is not uncommon however for some people to feel guilty about receiving kindness. All of this is an invitation for each of us to find a deeper understanding and empathy towards the sensitivities of those round us.