I just listened to the first recording and started reflecting on a point Burgs makes which hadn’t occurred to me before. For short of a better ‘title’ I would call it the flip side of lust, the importance that we attach to become the object of it. Lust acquires such relevance that if we do not feel ‘desired’, we think that we are not worthy of love, of estimation, of respect. The potential consequences are grave especially, although not exclusively, in young people: bulimia, anorexia, depression, lack of self-respect etc. And what shocked me was to realise how easy it is to contribute to develop that delusional state, a bit at a time: jokes, the lad culture, publicity, films, the way we dress, the way we praise.
Am I taking things too far?